Well, dear R., it did not work. Your suggestion was nice and I hoped it was going to work, but you, men, are so worried about your bits that as soon as I tried, I was stopped on the spot.
It worked the other way though. The whole situation led to a talk and I hope I have been finally heard. No guarantees yet, but I hope he is going to change the approach.
Now will have to do the same a few more times. Maybe I get lucky elsewhere.